Have you ever pointed the finger at someone and said something like, ‘you never do enough for me’ or ‘you never show your love to me’?

You may need to read this entry on ‘The Pointed Finger’.

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So you are trying to de-tangle your feelings. You can partly describe how you feel, but you are finding it difficult if not impossible to understand why you are feeling a certain way.

What effects your feelings are your emotions. Emotions are just an instruction that the body gets ‘told’ to ‘act’ out and you get a feeling as a result. A warm flush, a spine tingle, maybe even a shiver. This feeling is quickly followed by a conscious thought. That conscious thought is usually as clear as mud and thus we find it difficult to understand what we are feeling.

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I was reading this post over at Ms Single Mama Re: Can Men Feel Empathy? I replied as my serious self. Occasionally, I like to break wind or is that rules, and say something comical, even if it is only for my own amusement.

Some men are like Ferrari’s. Impractical yet good looking, Fast yet in need of constant servicing, the list could go on. Now women sometimes ignore their inner feelings and do a man thing and ignore all advice given and go in pursuit of something impractical and they get themselves a man who is good looking and great in bed. After awhile they begin to realise just how much servicing their ‘Ferrari’ needs. It becomes a bit of a chore. Plus the expense, the hair gel, the after shave, the nail therapy and don’t even start on the fuel that is required. They didn’t realise that while at the dealership, the kid did fit in the back, but now after a little while, you find that your ‘Ferrari’ is running out of puff and finding enough energy to lug the kid around is rather, well, laborious.

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Ms Single Mama has a collection of thoughts in relation to single parent hood. If you are in a similar situation then I ask you to take a look at her blog.

Q. I am in a relationship at the moment but am considering leaving. I have one child to my partner, but we just don’t get along anymore. He is nice and all but we just don’t have the spark we had when we got together 3 years ago. Can you help?

A. There are many things you could focus on in this situation. I would like to focus on the spark that has been lost. Do you know where it was lost? Can you define a time when it was lost?

Think about how you were feeling at that point, when you realised it was not there.

When we get together with another person and the relationship becomes intimate, we begin to share our feelings with our partner. The more information we share about our feelings the more intimate our relationship becomes. If this sharing of feelings ceases, either through not listening or not speaking, our relationship slowly becomes less intimate. We can loose the spark.

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