Q. I am in a relationship at the moment but am considering leaving. I have one child to my partner, but we just don’t get along anymore. He is nice and all but we just don’t have the spark we had when we got together 3 years ago. Can you help?

A. There are many things you could focus on in this situation. I would like to focus on the spark that has been lost. Do you know where it was lost? Can you define a time when it was lost?

Think about how you were feeling at that point, when you realised it was not there.

When we get together with another person and the relationship becomes intimate, we begin to share our feelings with our partner. The more information we share about our feelings the more intimate our relationship becomes. If this sharing of feelings ceases, either through not listening or not speaking, our relationship slowly becomes less intimate. We can loose the spark.

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